I used to know this guy, we'll say his name is Ben. Ben was cool, he was liberal, he boycotted Walmart on principle, he was living in his car for a few months to try and see all 50 states. I met him during this period, we fooled around some, but I couldn't get a true wide-on because physically, he just didn't do it for me. I felt guilty, like that wasn't enough excuse, but he still wasn't doing it for me, even as I kept fooling around with him hoping it'd click in. Then he claimed he was in love with me, I was 19 and maybe overdid it on showing how not into him I was, maybe took a little too advantage of his kindness because I mistakenly thought he was serious when he said he wanted to stay friends after I said no, then slowly waned in contact as he went to law school. But still thought he was an overall cool, smart dude.
Nearly ten years later. He has a wife. He has a law degree. He is now conservative. He started going by his much more old-man-ish middle name...we'll say it's Earl. Earl now keeps his interactions with me exclusively confined to snarkily explaining the legal reasons that my interpretation of an article I post on Facebook is wrong. It's been going off the charts since the Mike Brown thing...he'll show up, say something that sounds racist or like whitewashing, I'll point out how it sounds racist or like whitewashing, he'll mansplain law to me and how he doesn't think I understand the law and then get very offended I thought it was racism, I will explain that he didn't use very exact phrasing at first and if we are in agreement that the racial aspects of what I posted are still true, then there is no issue, then he mansplains to me how it is not affective argument technique to accuse someone of racism, at which point I'm like "um, then don't say things that sound just like what racist people are saying, even if you mean them differently?"
I want to unfriend this clown but people keep guilting me with their articles about why I am awful for having unfriended racists, so I'm trying to not do it.
Is it full of it/myself if I think at least 70% retaliation for admitting ten years ago that I just wasn't that into him?